Healing Your Emotional Self Emotionally abusive parents are indeed toxic parents, and they cause significant damage to their children s self esteem, self image, and body image In this remarkable book, Beverly Engel shares her powerful Mirror Therapy program for helping adult survivors to overcome their shame and self criticism, become compassionate and accepting of themselves, and create a posititve self image I strongly recommend it for anyone who was abused or neglected as a child Susan Forward, PhD author of Toxic Parents In this book, Beverly Engel documents the wide range of psychological abuses that so many children experience in growing up Her case examples and personal accounts are poignant and powerful reminders that as adults, many of us are still limited by the defenses we formed when trying to protect ourselves in the face of the painful circumstances we found ourselves in as children Engle s insightful questionnaires and exercises provide concrete help in the healing process, and her writing style is lively and engaging This book is destined to positively affect many lives Joyce Catlett, MA coauthor of Fear of Intimacy The Emotionally Abusive Relationship Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step by step strategies to stop emotional abuse helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse Marti Tamm Loring, PhD author of Emotional Abuse Loving Him without Losing You A powerful and practical guide to relationships that every woman should read Barbara De Angelis, PhD author of Are You the One for Me Very detailed information and lots of practical exercises for overcoming feelings of worthlessness and self hatred There is a little bit of overlap between this book and Engel s other book It Wasn t Your Fault , however this book goes into a lotdetail about linking specific types of abuse in childhood with specific types of behaviours issues in adulthood Highly recommend both books. This book was recommended to me by my therapist It was extremely informative and in this regard was helpful, however,often than not I found myself at odds with authors conclusions, which seem to be primarily dualistic in nature, suggesting that there is a true self beyond the traumas one experienced and beneath depression, that there is a personality separate from one s experiences and events We are nothing other than our material reality.The traumas one experiences is precisely what c This book was recommended to me by my therapist It was extremely informative and in this regard was helpful, however,often than not I found myself at odds with authors conclusions, which seem to be primarily dualistic in nature, suggesting that there is a true self beyond the traumas one experienced and beneath depression, that there is a personality separate from one s experiences and events We are nothing other than our material reality.The traumas one experiences is precisely what creates the self There is no self separate from the trauma, no personality without it Trauma is a creative force In this way, the author seems to neglect the biological aspect of depression, failing to recognize the role physiology and neurobiology plays in depression One must realize that depression isphysical then it is simply emotional or mental and as such there, depression is an irrevocable part of one s biological makeup, it is indispensable from one s neural functionality, and once again there can be no self or personality without it or free from Absolutely brilliant I got the audio version first and even while listening to it I could see the merit of working through the book in detail I have since ordered the print book for myself and for a dear friend who may also find it helpful I can highly recommend this book I am looking forward to all the exercises which I can see will be very helpful.I will make a commitment to re visit this book review when I am through the exercises to add my experience with them to it.Re read this book in Absolutely brilliant I got the audio version first and even while listening to it I could see the merit of working through the book in detail I have since ordered the print book for myself and for a dear friend who may also find it helpful I can highly recommend this book I am looking forward to all the exercises which I can see will be very helpful.I will make a commitment to re visit this book review when I am through the exercises to add my experience with them to it.Re read this book in October 2018 still think it s brilliant However, I suggest the print version I can t make friends with the audio The reader s voice grates on me Will start doing the exercises in this book now, three years after first committing to doing them More review to come when I am done Marasmus is a term used for children who are deeply deprived of emotional nurturing even though they are physically well cared for, but who fail to thrive and eventually die Humans learn so much with their skin while being held thus some children adults rock back and forth to comfort themselves when this vital component is not being met Healing your emotional self, is indeed a heavy book to read and work on but it helped me immeasurably because it broadens my professional perspectives.